“When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, till it seems as though you could not hang on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.”

                                                                                                                                                                                       -H.B. Stowe

I think most of us have had days and likely longer periods like weeks or months when we’ve thought about life like this and felt pretty glum. When you’ve had several setbacks in a row, bad luck or things aren’t going your way – even though you do your best – then it may feel like: my life simply and honestly sucks.

In this article I’d like to share 10 things that have helped me when I’ve asked myself: why does my life suck?

  • It is fine to feel frustrated. When things aren’t going your way then you sometimes get frustrated. That’s natural and OK. So instead of trying to push these emotions away accept and process them. Reconnect with your present and don’t focus on the past or the future. Relax!
  • Be grateful. I say this a lot but feeling of genuine gratitude surely helps in difficult times. So, zoom out a bit because during those times it’s easy to go from feeling sorry for yourself for a while into full on victim thinking that lasts for too long and drags you down. Be thankful for all you have, irrespective of however small it is.
  • Focus on HOW-TOs and not on WHAT-IFs. Spend more of your time on finding the small and practical steps you can take to make things better. Refrain from thinking about the negatives because negatives drag you down.
  • Remind yourself that a new day awaits. Don’t be upset because this day didn’t work out well. You still have a tomorrow waiting for you with open arms.
  • Remind yourself of the positive. Ask yourself what is going on well in my life? This question though seems insignificant but is a subtle reminder that your life doesn’t really suck. It’s just a matter of time and time shall change soon.
  • Value your setbacks. Don’t repent over them. Learn from them. Learn from your mistakes and make amends. Mistakes make you a better person. Learn and move on.
  • It’s OK to have a bad day. Some days won’t work out even if you use smart strategies and that is natural. In order to value the good times, it is necessary to have bad encounters. Happiness is relative and so is good time. Just hang in there!
  • Vent it out. Sometimes all we need is a shoulder to cry on. A moral support or a friend who is there by our side when the time is sour. We don’t really need advice, all we need is an ear that listens it all. So, find your f]shoulder and stick to it.

It’s always darkest before the dawn. The happiest moments always come after the struggles. So even if it looks like its not working out. Wait because magic is about to happen.