As we pass a certain age group, we start regretting some things that we didn’t do. For instance, some people might regret not holding onto their friends from college because of their hectic job commitments or not meeting their late parents very often because of their hectic schedules.
20 years down the line, I don’t want to sit with regrets. I don’t want to wish I had done things differently especially something as simple yet meaningful, as taking out time to catch up with my friends and family.
In the end, more than anything else, we regret the small chances we didn’t take to save the priceless relationships because we were too busy running after money, which by the way holds no significance, when the loved ones aren’t around to splatter the wealth on!
Here are some common regrets that people have in their 50s or 60s.
- Not spending enough time with the loved ones. This is the most obvious one. Never be too busy to make room in your day for the ones who matter most. They are ones who love us selflessly without any demands or complaints. Nurture your relationship with them. Spend more time with those who make you feel good, and less time with those who you feel pressured to impress.
- Basing your self-worth on other people’s opinions. We tend to forget that most people judge us based on experiences from their own life that have absolutely nothing to do with us. So, basing your self-worth on what they think puts you at the mercy of their unreliable and biased perspective. Nobody knows your true potential more than you do! So, don’t get affected by other people’s opinions.
- Trying to please others and forgetting what really matters to you. Ten years from now it won’t really matter what shoes you wore today, how your hair looked, or what brand of clothes you wore. What will matter is how you lived, how you loved, and what you learned along the way. So, if you want to impress someone, impress yourself by making progress on something you’re sincerely proud of.
- Focusing on failures. While focusing on failures, we miss out on opportunities. All of us have failed and fallen in the past. It’s better to have a life full of small wounds and failures that you learned from, rather than a lifetime filled with the regrets of never trying. Don’t spend the rest of your life crying over your failures or thinking about why you didn’t do what you can do right now. Shift your focus from failures to opportunities and witness the magic that happens.
Procrastinating and never starting. It’s always easy to be lazy and wait around. It’s easy to waste another day. But you need to do just the opposite! Even if you get it all wrong, you will learn something useful that will help you get it right in the future. A daily ritual of small, positive steps is the ultimate key.