Thursday, January 18, 2018
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Things to start doing for yourself

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It is not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself and to make yourself a priority; it is necessary. Because unless you love your own self, nobody else will love you. Also, making yourself a priority and doing things your way without bothering about the approval of others, will attract the right kind of people in your life. They people that you can identify with, with whom you don’t have to be someone else. So, start living your life to your own terms and see what great things start happening to you.

Listed below are 5 things that you can start doing for yourself starting now-

  • Face your problems. Problems don’t disappear on their own. You have to act on them to make them disappear from your life. Problems are an inevitable part of our lives, they make us stronger and prepare us for greater challenges waiting ahead. The key to facing any problem is the way you react to it. It is not what happens that count, it is how you react to it. Your attitude determines what you make of it – either an obstacle or a stepping-stone.
  • Spend time with the right people. It is rightly said, “We are the average of the 5 people that we spend our time with.” Spend time with people who encourage you, support you and inspire you to become a better version of yourself. Choose people who are there with you no matter what. Learn from the good lot around you and grow along with them.
  • Be true to yourself. Be honest about what you want to do. Stay true to your heart and do what it desires. Don’t let anyone else set the rules for you. Never change for anyone thinking they will you. Be you and the right people will love the real you. Embrace your strengths, embrace each bit of yourself.
  • Start living in the present. Whatever has happened in the past, has happened and cannot be changed. Whatever is about to happen in the future is beyond your control. So stop obsessing over the past and stop planning the future. Just live in the moment and make the best out of it. Everything else will follow.
  • Learn from your mistakes. I say this quite a lot. But mistakes are our best teachers. We learn some of the best lessons of our life from our mistakes. Learn from your mistakes because they help you become better and stronger. But don’t stagnate because of a mistake, move on!

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Magic happens when you start loving yourself. Don’t give up in front of other people’s expectations. Start loving yourself and live your life, your own way because the universe falls in love with a stubborn heart!

Enemies of personal growth

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When it come to personal growth, there are certain things that add to your personal growth while some things stop you from self-improvement.

So, in this article, I’m going to share with some enemies of self-improvement that you have to look out for.

  • This is the worst thing you could do to yourself or to anybody else. Comparison not only induces self-doubt but also stops us from performing our best. The only comparison that you should be doing is – Comparison with your OWN self. Try to be a better version of yourself. Your only battle is with your own self. Look back and see how far you have come and aim on being better than how you were the previous day!
  • Worrying about what others think of you. The greatest fear in the world is of the opinion of others. And the moment you are unafraid of the crowd, you are no longer a sheep. You are a lion. If you care about what others think, you are their prisoner. Break free from their prison! It’s not your job to think what others think of you. Also, it is useless to think about what people think of you. Most people don’t even know what they think about themselves. So, chill!
  • Holding onto the past. “Stop pressing rewind on the things that need to be deleted from your life.” Dwelling in the past or trying to take control of the future are two things that steal the peace from your present. You cannot change what has happened in your past. Stop replaying that argument a 1000th time in your mind, thinking about winning it by changing your argument this time. This isn’t going to help! Live in the present. Focus on making it the best. What has happened has happened. Just move on!
  • Following the herd like a sheep. When you follow the crowd like a sheep, you compromise with your own interests and blindly follow what you think is the trend. We follow the crowd because we are afraid of trying newer things, we are afraid of what people will think and we are afraid of the mockery that would be thrown upon us on our failure. Be bold. Say no to conforming to and following the crowd. When the herd is moving in one direction, it might be heading towards shit but the ONE moving in the opposite direction would seem like a fool to everybody. But if you prove yourself and you do what you love, everybody gets their answer. So, give up the herd mentality!

Not believing in yourself. Our thoughts are like a steering wheel that steer our life into the desirable direction. Think negatively and life would head towards that. Think positively and all good gets bestowed upon you. If you believe, you can- You definitely will! Trust yourself, have faith in your abilities. There are many others who would doubt your skills and abilities and tell you that you CAN’T. Don’t be the who’s stopping you from being your best. Believe in yourself!

Tricks to lift your mood instantly

Happy successful sportswoman raising arms to the sky on golden back lighting sunset summer. Fitness athlete with arms up celebrating goals after sport exercising and working out outdoors. Copy space.

 

There are days when you feel low and motivation is down in the dumps. Thankfully, there are some effortless strategies that can instantly lift up your mood. So, in this article, I’m going to talk about such tricks that will help you brighten up your mood instantly.

  • Listen to upbeat music. Our mood is highly influenced by the type of music we listen to. Listen to sad songs and it would make you feel sad and low. On the other hand, listening to up-beat and happy songs, makes you feel like that. The better the beats, the better the mood. So, the next time you feel low, your automatic instinct would be to listen to soothing and calming song. But hey, don’t do that. That would make you feel even more upset. Try listening to some upbeat, party-like music for an instant boost of mood and enthusiasm.
  • Resort to comedy. Comedy always comes to the rescue when the mood is sad. Watch a video or two of your favourite comedian on YouTube or watch funny clips and see how your mood lightens up.
  • Eat something healthy. Whenever we are sad, we resort to the human tendency of binge eating fries and other junk food. All the oily and fried food slows down the metabolism and makes your tummy upset. On the other hand, if you eat eat something healthy like a salad or frozen yoghurt etc, your tummy would thank you. Also, when we are eating, we send good signals to the brain. The brain tends to relax and this leads to reduction in the stress.
  • Be grateful. When we are feeling sad, it is natural to think of the failures and the setbacks that have happened to us. This in turn would make us feel like a loser and would make our mood worse. What should you do then? Think of the things that you have achieved in life like your past success or achievements. Think of the things that you already have in your life but are usually ignored like a roof over your head, good meals three times a day, good clothes to wear etc. being grateful makes you realise the value of things that you otherwise take for granted. The feeling of accomplishment that comes with gratitude always lifts up the mood.
  • Acknowledge your journey. When you feel like a total failure, take time to reflect on your journey. You will realise that you have come very far from where you started. You had a journey full of ups and downs but you made through it all. You stood strongly against all odds and sailed through the rough times. All this would definitely make you strong, give you a sense of accomplishment and lift your mood instantly.
  • Talk to someone close. Sometimes, all we need is a shoulder to cry on. Call up your best friend or someone you are very close to like your sister, mother or your partner. Talk about it, open up. Cry if you want to. Just vent it all out. The relief that comes when you vent out your worries instantly lifts up your mood. Your focus becomes clear and you are ready to find solutions to your problems all by yourself!

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So, these are some instant tricks. There is no one-formula suits all kind of trick here. Find the one that works for you. Don’t forget to share it with us.

Good day! πŸ™‚

Practical ways to improve yourself

 

“Become addicted to constant and never-ending self improvement.”

Improvement is a life-long phenomenon. You can never sit back and say to yourself, “Hey, I have reached the saturation of improvement. There’s nothing else I can improve myself in.” No, this is never going to happen ever! However, the will to improve and become a better version of yourself should come from your inside. This can’t be forced onto you. It is you who decides and takes steps to improve thy self.

So, in this article, I’m going to share with you some practical ways by which you can improve yourself.

  • Make the best out of the resources available to you. Stop whining about the resources that you do not have access to. Start appreciating whatever you have and make the best use of it. Stevie Wonder who has 25 Grammy awards in his possession attributing to his passion for music. Would you be inspired if I tell you, Stevie Wonder is blind? Yes! He made the best possible use of the resources and senses available to him and did wonders. If he could, anyone can do wonders!
  • Give up your comfort zone. A comfort zone is a beautiful place but nothing actually grows there! If you stay in your comfort zone and avoid trying new things that means you are doing the same things over and over again. If you want to achieve something you’ve never had, you have to do something you’ve never done. Staying in the comfort zone doesn’t let you become the extra-ordinary that you are aspiring to be. Everything you want to achieve is one step outside your comfort zone. So, get out of it now!
  • Pursue something you love. I have said it numerous times and I mean it. If you do something that you do not like, you tend it do half-heartedly. The lesser the enthusiasm, the poorer the quality of the work. On the other hand, if you do something that you really really love, you tend to put your heart and soul into it. The results? Amazingly extra-ordinary work of topmost quality. Don’t give up your chances of becoming a Maestro in doing what you love, for being a mediocre in something you don’t even like!
  • Read great books. This is one of the most tried and tested ways of self-improvement. Self-help books not only help you improve in person but also provide a newer perspective to things. They introduce us to a whole new world of possibilities. They provide so much positivity and hope to oneself that they actually become addictive. For those, who are not avid readers, you can try listening to the audio versions of such great books.
  • Have an open-mind. “The mind is like a parachute, it doesn’t work unless it is open.” I love this statement for it is the crux of the whole concept behind this pointer. If you keep an open mind, you learn from all experiences, you see possibilities even in your tough times and you are able to think from different perspectives. Open mind enables you to grasp, learn and hold on the new and useful things.

These are the most important points. There is no end to this list so feel free to add more points to it. I hope they help you.

Good luck! πŸ™‚

Habits to give up to be successful

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I’ve talked a lot about how some habits hold us back and stop us from achieving what we really want. Such habits stop us from being successful. So, this article is for everyone who is ready to give up such habits to be successful irrespective of his/her age.

Presenting to you, habits that need to be given up to be successful in life.

  • Give up perfection. Striving to be perfect isn’t a bad habit. But trying to impart perfection to each and every thing and making it an excuse is definitely a bad habit. What I mean by this is. Waiting for the ‘perfect’ time to do the task ‘perfectly’ isn’t going to help. This leads to procrastination. When we wait for the stars to align perfectly for that big task to be started, we should keep in mind that, this perfect time might never come. There will always be something that would require attention and lead to delay of this ‘to-be’perfect’ task. We might wait for our entire life just for the right time. Stop waiting for the right time. Start it right now with whatever resources you have. Don’t wait! Just give it your best.
  • Give up the excuses. “I will definitely do it after I come back from the movies.”, “Just one more episode of F.R.I.E.N.D.S. won’t do any harm.”, “Not in a mood right now, will do it later maybe.” So on and so forth. Excuses are endless. You will never be in a mood to work. You will always have something else on your plate. Get your priorities straight. Keep them in your mind. Realise that putting it off until later isn’t going to help. It has to be done by you, sooner or later. The more you delay, the greater would be the stress and the poorer the quality. Stress because of the looming deadline over head and degraded quality because of the need to do away with it somehow just on time.
  • Give up thinking about the past. The past has happened and it cannot be altered. Obsessing over the incidents from the past like past failures, past relationships etc. is just a waste of time. Trying correct the past is as useless as crying over the past mistakes. What has happened has happened. Take lessons from your past and move on. Obsessing over it, whining about it or crying over it isn’t going to help. Live in the moment and make the best out of the present.
  • Give up the blame game. Take full responsibility for your life. Pointing fingers towards somebody else might look easy but it is not constructive at all. Unless you own your mistake, you won’t be able to learn from that experience. Instead of blaming, realise what went wrong and work on finding solutions to that problem. When you blame, you put the onus of the doing on someone else and this in turn doesn’t add anything to your experience. You don’t make efforts to correct it because it was somebody’s else responsibility. So, own your life and whatever good or bad happens in it. Learn from your mistakes, improve yourself.
  • Give up not being true to yourself. Don’t do things that are ‘wrong’ according to your belief system. Don’t do things that your heart doesn’t like. Be true to your beliefs and to your heart. If you don’t like a joke that your boss made because it doesn’t align with your belief system, don’t laugh at it. Don’t portray what you are not. Your beliefs are what make you. Don’t do things that you do not like. Do what you really really want to do. Don’t do something because someone else told you to do. Staying true to yourself is the only thing that you should not compromise with.

Give up these habits and see how happy it makes you. Success comes to those who happily work for it. These habits not only make you happy but are also constructive in nature. Give them a try and you won’t regret.

Wish you luck! πŸ™‚

Ways to get you what you want

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Who doesn’t want to live the life of his dreams? We all have a mental picture of what we want in our life, don’t we? However, not every belief or habit is going to help us get there. Worry not, today I’m going to share with you some sure-shot ways to get what you want.

  • Turn your dream into small steps. Yes, you read that right. Figure out what you want in your life. Slice that dream into small actionable steps. Accomplish them one by one. It might be a short-term goal like losing weight or getting a job of your dream. Break down these dreams into small feasible tasks. Like if you want to lose weight you might break it down like this- eating salads 5 days a week, giving up artificial sugars, working out daily for an hour etc. Make a journal and as you progress record the achievements.
  • Be consistent. Once you are done breaking down your goal. Work towards achieving it each day. You should work on it humongously once in a while and ignore it on all other days. Just work on it bit by bit each each. Don’t over-do it don’t under-do it. Just make it a point to accomplish a little part of it each day. Consistency is the key.
  • Surround yourself with the right people. It is rightly said, “We are the average of the 5 people that we spend our time with.” So, choose your company wisely. There are people who drag us down with their negativity. Stay clear of them. Keep positive people around yourself, people who lift you up and don’t push you down into the dump of negativity. Surround yourself with like-minded people, people who want similar things like you or have similar values like you do. It really does make a difference.
  • Be kind. Zig Ziglar said, β€œYou can get everything in life you want if you will just help enough other people get what they want.” You can’t exhibit negativity and complain about how trashy others are. Karma is a bitch. What goes around, comes around. So, be careful in what you give out. If you give out cruelty, negativity and envy; be ready to experience the same. Work to create light for others and your path will automatically be lightened.
  • Balance is essential. You have to be consistent and all focused on your goal but that doesn’t mean that you should ignore your personal life in all of it. Create a healthy balance between your personal and professional life. Nurture your relationships, make time for yourself, nurture your passions, do it all. Over-doing one will disturb the peace and harmony of your life.

 

These ways have been believed to work out for everyone. I hope they work out for you too. They are worth a try so go ahead and give them a try.

Wishing you luck! πŸ™‚

Unconventional habits of highly productive people

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Being productive isn’t god’s gift, it is a skill that can be mastered with the right set of habits spread over the right routine. There are some habits that distinguish a productive someone from a not-so-productive someone. Mentioned below are some habits that are followed by productive people. Check them out.

  • Disconnect to connect. What I mean by this is, from time-to-time, disconnect from your technologically poisoned life and take time out for yourself. Spend time doing what matters to you. Spend time with your loved ones. Instead of spending time online, spend time offline into the laps of nature. Go out for a vacation or just relax in the comfort of your home. Just switch off your phone and stay available offline.
  • Meditation is an easy way to connect to your own self. In this chaotic life, we lose touch with our inner voice. We become so much engrossed in our hectic routines, that we stop spending time on ourselves. We keep aside things that our heart wants and get trapped in the rat race of excelling in our jobs, trying to accomplish more than our colleagues. The goal of meditation is not to get rid of emotions or thoughts. The goal is to become more aware of your thoughts and emotions and learn how to move through them without getting stuck.
  • Choose a morning ritual that sets the right tone for the day. A morning ritual is as important as a healthy breakfast. Optimize your morning ritual to optimize the rest of your day. Meditate, work out, do the most important thing first thing in the morning or do whatever you feel would set the right tone of the day. There is no one-formula fits all thing here. Customize your own morning ritual for yourself.
  • Eliminate distractions while you work. While we are working, everything other than the work itself seems interesting. It is easy to fall prey to procrastination. Having easy internet access makes it easier for us to catch just one episode of F.R.I.E.N.D.S. or G.O.T. before starting to work. That urge to check the social media account just one more time might suck up all the time and energy leaving us with nothing at hand. So, make it a point to eliminate all, I repeat, ALL the sources of distractions while you work. Converge all the focus and energy into that single task and do it whole-heartedly for utmost efficiency.
  • Be grateful and appreciative of others. This might clichΓ© for I say this a lot. But this actually works big time for me. Be grateful of every little thing you have, of every victory however small or big, of every single person in your life. Be grateful, celebrate life because someone else is happy in less than what you have and someone else is praying for the things you take for granted. Be appreciative of the people around you. Everyone is fighting a battle of their own that you have no idea about. Your small compliments or appreciations might bring joy to them. Kindness goes a long way!

 

These are a handful habits that everyone, who aspires to be productive, must inculcate in their lives. They go a long way. Being productive is a state of mind. Make wise decisions, choose smart habits and you’ll see the difference for yourself.

Good luck! πŸ™‚

Essential things to put on your to-do list

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I have talked enough about the benefits of a TO-DO list. We have also discussed about what to put in your TO-DON’T list. So, today I’m sharing with you essential things that should definitely be there on your TO-DO list to help you guide you throughout your day.

Here we go-

  • Mind your reactions. “Life is 10% of what happens to you and 90% of how you react to it.” Yes, you read that right. We might be undergoing a very tough situation but there are always two roads that you can take during that moment. One, you whine about it, cry about it, get upset and abort yourself from it. Two, instead of crying or whining because they won’t help, you think of the solutions and the ways-out. A situation becomes tough only when we think of it as tough. Our reactions are what matter the most!
  • Because some questions cannot be answered by Google. Listen to your inner voice. In the hustled life, that we live in today, it becomes very difficult to concentrate on the self. The goal of meditation is not to get rid of emotions or thoughts. The goal is to become more aware of your thoughts and emotions and learn how to move through them without getting stuck. Like prayer connects you to God, meditation connects you to your own self.
  • Be genuinely kind. I came across a very beautiful one-liner and it stuck to my heart. It says, “A human is born in every house but humanity is born in a few of them.” The most beautiful thing you can do is to be genuinely kind. Don’t be kind because you want to be reciprocated in the same way. Be kind because you really want to create a positive environment around yourself. It might not be reciprocated or even appreciated but that shouldn’t bother you. You cannot be all trashy and negative to the people around you and complain about how negative the people are. What goes around comes around. Be the change you want to see in others.
  • Be grateful. Take time out to reflect upon the things you are grateful for in your life. It might be the roof over your head, a good job, a supportive family/partner, or whatever. Be thankful to the small things in life. Oftentimes, we run after things that we don’t have and forget to value the things that we already have. Take for example- A man sitting on a bicycle wanted to have a car, the man having a car wanted to have a helicopter. A man without legs just wanted to have two fully functional legs! Always remember, someone else is happy in less than what we have. Someone else is praying for the things, we take for granted. So, be grateful for whatever you have, always!
  • Genuinely appreciate someone for something. Appreciate your co-worker over how brilliantly they did their job. Appreciate your friend for being there with you always. Appreciate your parents for always being supportive of you. Appreciate every little thing. Appreciate a stranger over how good they look today or good their smile is. Be genuine in your approach. You never know that one appreciation from you might make someone’s day. Everybody is fighting a battle of their of their own that we have no idea about. And if you can’t appreciate, just don’t be rude. πŸ™‚

 

These are just some pointers that I found to be essential points on a TO-DO list. You might be aware of more. Feel free to add more of these. Feel free to share it with us.

Good day! πŸ™‚

Beliefs of ineffective people

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I have already talked about how some beliefs hold us back. They might have been taught to us, learned by us along our journey or whatever. We are better off without such beliefs, aren’t we? Here’s presenting to you, a few of such beliefs that the ineffective people hold onto.

  • “It’s a lot of work.” Wishing for an easier life deprived of new challenges is a symptom of ineffective people. Such people take challenges as hurdles in their path and run away from them. Effective people, however, take challenges as new opportunities to learn and explore. They don’t run away from them, they welcome them and consider them as stepping stones to success.
  • “I am not going to forgive.” Until you forgive, you are not going to move on. And unless you move on, you will be thinking about it each day each moment, wasting your precious time and energy over something that is not even worth it. Forgive them for your own self. Forgive but don’t forget the lesson you learnt from that particular experience.
  • “Starting over is not an option.” If something has gone wrong, starting over gives you a chance to rebuild it in a bigger and much better way. There is no shame or disgrace attached to it. Do it for your own self, for your own good because nobody else but you, are going to face the implications of dragging something unnecessarily if you don’t start over.
  • “My sufferings today will make my future happy.” No, just rip this thought out of your mind, right here right now. Don’t spoil your present thinking about the future. The future can be as happy as the present. It doesn’t require you to sacrifice your happiness today. Being happy is a way of living. Don’t give up on your present just because of an uncertain event in the future.
  • “I don’t know what I want.” Effective people clearly know the purpose of their life. They have it all planned and don’t just get along the flow. Until you know what you want, you would be purposelessly wasting your life over nothing. So, figure out what you want in your life and align your routine along it.

 

These are the beliefs that ineffective people live by. However, they can be turned around. So, which category do you want to be in? the choice is all yours! πŸ˜‰

Ways to simplify life

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“Life is really simple but we insist on making it complicated.”

Almost all of us have this notion that ‘Life is complicated’. But is this really the case? Life isn’t tough or complicated, we complicate it by taking such decisions. We clutter our life with old ideas, toxic relationships and bad habits. We complicate our lives simply by cluttering it with things that do not support our better self.

So, what is it that would make our lives simpler?

Here’s, presenting to you 10 ways to make your life simpler. Check them out.

  1. Give up something you are not passionate about. Replace it with with that thing you really, really, REALLY want to do.
  2. Give up perfectionism. Stop waiting for the perfect time accomplish a task perfectly. This is never going to happen. Start it NOW, with the resources you have.
  3. Minimize your ‘social networking life’. Keep as few accounts as possible. You don’t have to be present on each and every social media platform.
  4. Give up multi-tasking. Single-task each and everything, however small or big that thing is.
  5. Figure out what you want to do in your life. Align your daily routine according to it.
  6. Make a TO-DO and TO-DON’T list. Stick to it to provide a direction to your daily routine.
  7. Be true to yourself ALWAYS. Do what you want to do, the way you want to do. Don’t try to please everyone. You are not a jar of Nutella, it’s not even your job. πŸ˜›
  8. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes. Learn from them, laugh over them. Just don’t stagnate yourself because of a mistake. Move on.
  9. Gradually eliminate top three sources of negativity from your life. Figure out top three negative people around you, cut them off your life. Eliminate the top three negative sources of entertainment from your life.
  10. Don’t worry about what other people would think of you. Everybody has a lot going on in their own life. Nobody cares. It’s your life, take hold it. Do what matters to you.

 

Life can be as simple as you want it to be. So, who complicates it then? We, ourselves. Choose a simpler life. De-clutter it. Make better choices.

Stay simple. Stay happy. πŸ˜‰