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Simple facts smart people forget

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In this fast-paced life, even the smartest of minds tend to forget the simplest of facts that govern our growth and success. This article will serve as a quick reminder for all of you out there and help you reconnect with the reality.

Let’s get started..

  • You will never be completely ready. Whenever you have an opportunity at hand or a possibility to start something new, you will never feel 100% ready. But that doesn’t mean you aren’t ready. You are only scared of a meagre chance of failure and the uncertainty of events involved in the task. Starting something new always intimidates us because it requires us to come out of our comfort zone and challenge ourselves. It requires us to push our limits. And this is why we stop ourselves from taking up new opportunities. But is this the right approach? Absolutely not! Life is a never-ending process of learning and if we hold ourselves back just because of a slim possibility of failure, we are no less than stupid! All I am saying is, good opportunities only come around rarely. So, grab them with both your hands without hesitating.
  • There’s a huge difference between knowing how to do something and actually doing it. You might be next-level intelligent or immensely educated but unless you ACT, you aren’t good enough. There is no point knowing about the procedure of how to accomplish a thing or doing keen studies on the probable outcomes unless you actually stand up and work on what you want. Actions are what turn theory into reality. You might be a genius with your thoughts but if you don’t act on your ideas, you are plain stupid. On the other hand, you might not be having too many degrees or knowledge about the thing you want to pursue but it wouldn’t matter if you make real efforts in that direction. So without any further ado, ACT!
  • Happiness and success are not complementary to each other. Success doesn’t ensure happiness. You might be immensely successful in your field but you might be struggling with your personal life, which would make you unhappy. However, a happy person is a positive person. Positivity makes you successful. A positive and happy person finds happiness even in the darkest of hours. So, aim to be happy. Happiness ensures peace of mind and a peaceful mind is always the most efficient.
  • Mistakes are stepping stones to success. You might not be in a very comfortable time in your life. Setbacks and failures might have surrounded you. But thinking negative would only make it worse. Always remember, mistakes are a sign of progress that imply that you are trying. You are making efforts in the desirable direction despite the difficulties. After the difficult phase is over, you either win or you learn. There’s nothing like losing. Every mistake that you make offers a new lesson to you. It not only adds up to your wisdom but also prepares you for the greater challenges ahead. So, try, try, try again until you succeed. Because it’s always a win-win, either you get what you desired or you learn a new lesson.
  • Communication rules out the possibility of conflicts. In any relationship whether personal or professional, communication plays a vital role. Unless you communicate what you feel, the other person won’t get to know about it. Don’t assume things and don’t let others assume. Communicate clearly. You might be expecting someone to do something for you and it will only hurt you if that person doesn’t have any hint about what you are expecting. Make your expectations and emotions clear to them. The guess game doesn’t do any good so stay away from it.

These simple facts are most often forgotten by us and no one is to be blamed for it but our hectic routines. I hope this articles would do its job well and would serve as a reminder for you to reconnect with the truth of life because there is no running away from these facts.

Top 3 causes and cures for procrastination

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Procrastination is everywhere. In fact I have a confession to make, I am a PRO in procrastination. All of us are aware of how procrastination is disguised as happiness but is actually stealing us of our happiness and peace of mind. It’s high time that we find the causes and cures of it.

Here’s presenting to you an article on what are the top 3 causes and proven cures to procrastination. Have a look.

  • No motivation. When motivation is down in the dumps, we don’t feel like doing anything and every small task appears to be a daunting one. We make excuses to putting it off until next time. But does this really help? No. By doing this, we are only postponing the work and not getting done with it. The deadline and stress of the pending task looms over our head and robs us of happiness. When you are lacking motivation, you are probably looking at the task by calculating how much time and efforts it would require. What you should be rather doing is, figuring out the rewards that you would get in return once the task is completed. For example- you might want to complete a task early because you will be getting a bonus on its completion or you can yourself assign a reward for yourself after you are done with a task.
  • Uncertainty of outcome. Many times, we fear doing a task because we don’t know what the outcome would be and this uncertainty intimidates us. Other times, we fear failure and imagine people looking down at us. When this happens, ask yourself this question – “how many times has my imagination really come alive?” and you will figure out that most of time what you dreaded didn’t really happen and you had unnecessarily cooked up wild thoughts in your mind. You will realise that you had done a lot of over-thinking on the subject and it wasn’t absolutely required. Instead of getting trapped in the vicious cycle of over-thinking and procrastination, just make small efforts towards the task at hand without thinking about the outcome. Give in your best without fear of failure and everything will fall into place.

Trying to do things ‘perfectly’. Whenever we have something important to accomplish, it is natural to urge a hint of perfectionism in that task. In wanting to accomplish things perfectly, we wait for the ‘perfect’ time, ‘perfect’ resources, ‘perfect’ company and everything perfect. In this process, we forget that stars will never align ‘perfectly’ and that the ‘perfect’ time might never come. There will always be something or the other on our plate and all this would make us put that important task off until eternity. In such a situation, don’t aim for perfection. Rather aim to accomplish small tasks in the right direction. The aim is never perfection but the task that is important to us. Perfectionism is just an excuse to put things off. If something is really important to you, work on it, no matter what. Don’t wait for the stars to align or the universe to make things easy for you. Just work on it with whatever resources you have and however much time you have.

Habits for a highly efficient mind

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Enough said. Habits, whether good or bad, play a highly important role in our life. Some habits have the potential to alter the efficiency of our minds. These habits when integrated in our routine can really help a mediocre become a highly efficient person.

Mentioned below are some of such habits that would increase your efficiency manifold.

  • Concentrate on the present. Replaying an old argument 1000th time, trying to win it over by coming up with better points this time or worrying about what could go wrong in the future aren’t going to help. Dwelling in the past is as useless as dreaming of the future because neither the past can be changed nor the future can be controlled. But one thing that is certain is the present. Focus on making the best out of your present and everything else will fall into place. When you have nothing but ‘NOW’ in your mind, you give in your best and your efficiency increases.
  • Nurture your relationship with your loved ones. The time spent with the loved ones is always a happy time. Stress is inversely proportional to happiness meaning that, the greater the happiness, the lesser is the stress and vice-versa. Spend more time with the people you love and create memories with them. Happy memories not only help you sail through the tough times but strong bonds with the loved ones give us a morale support. When we are mentally and emotionally stable, we tend to perform better and our efficiency increases.
  • Find your motivations. Motivations keep us going. Something that motivates me might not motivate you. Motivation drivers can be different for each of us. So, find yourself one. It can be a song, listening to which you might feel pumped up or a movie that boosts your confidence or a celebrity or someone dear to you. Find your motivation and keep it close. Alexander, the great couldn’t have conquered the whole world with his motivation at the lowest. When you are completely motivated is when you perform your best and your efficiency is at its peak.
  • Challenge yourself with new things. Not challenging your mind with new activities and skills would mean giving up to live in your comfort zone. The comfort zone is a beautiful place but nothing actually grows there. If you don’t challenge yourself, you won’t learn new things. No new learning means no growth. Life becomes stagnant and there would be nothing exciting to wake up every day for. Challenges keep us going and help us broaden our horizons. Keep learning newer skills and keep challenging your mind with newer activities. Life is a never-ending process of learning.
  • Exercise keeps our body fir and brain is a considerable part of our body. Leading an unhealthy life, keeping your unfit would also mean keeping your mind unhealthy. Take care of your body. Give it proper nourishment, give it proper rest and work out regularly because taking care of your body directly means you are taking care of your mind. The better you eat, the better is the blood supply to your mind. The better the blood supply, the better is the efficiency. So, you saw the relation now? What are you waiting for then? Never miss out on your workout and always binge on healthy things. Your mind and body will thank you.

Try incorporating these habits in your life and i’m sure that these habits will definitely help you become an efficient person.

Good luck! 🙂

Ways which lead your life below your full potential

 

Unlike computers, human potential is unlimited. There wont’ be any day when your mind will stop working displaying a message saying “internal memory full, delete some data to continue.” Nope, that’s not going to happen, EVER. We, as humans, can always strive for improvement, pushing our limits. Unfortunately, not everyone utilises their true potential and keep under-performing throughout their life.

For those who don’t want to be in the category of under-performers, here’s a list.

  • Dwelling in the past. Replaying the past over and over again, lamenting and whining about what didn’t go right in the past or what could have been done by you is plain stupid. What has happened has happened and can’t be changed now. But what can be changed and efficiently controlled is the present. Focus on the present and try to make the best out of it. Always remember, “Yesterday is a cancelled cheque. Tomorrow is a promissory note. Today is the only cash you have. So, spend it wisely.” Absolutely true! All you need to do is focus on the present and all else will follow.
  • Letting criticism get under your skin. Praise and criticism are like two sides of a coin. Just like letting praise get to your head can degrade your performance because of over-confidence engulfing you. Similarly, letting criticism get to your heart will stop you from performing. You would be scared of trying out new things and making mistakes would become dreadful to you. So, take praise and criticism in the right spirit. Learn from both of them and move on. Don’t dwell on any criticism thinking about it too much. Work on what can be improved and prepare yourself for greater challenges ahead.
  • Blaming others. When you blame others for the situation that you’re in, you are shifting the onus of improvement onto somebody else’s shoulders. When do portray that it’s not your mistake, you avoid making amends for that. Unless you take responsibility for your own life and your own shizz, you won’t feel the power in yourself to change it. And when you start taking taking responsibility for your life is when you start working for it, no matter what. So, stop blaming anyone for whatever is happening to you right now. Own your life. Live your life according to your rules!
  • The time spent in complaining or whining about your life is the time wasted. Rather than complaining, whining or crying about what is happening in your life, spend time trying to sort things out. Try to figure out the solutions to your problems. Crying or whining doesn’t help. What it does is increase negativity in your life. Be positive in such situations and try to figure out the solutions to whatever is bothering you rather than complaining about it. When all you can think of, are problems, change your perspective and think of the solutions!
  • Thinking that ‘You can’t’. Thoughts are like steering wheel that drives our life into the desired direction. If we think negative then that is what happens to us. You think that you cannot do it, you definitely won’t be able to do it. Think that you CAN and I bet you would be able to accomplish it no matter what. What you think is what happens. So, think carefully!

These are the checks that you need to make in your life. Avoid these checkpoints because they invite trouble. They hold you back and stop you from performing. Figure these out before they affect you.

Good luck! 🙂

How to stop complicating your life

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Life is not complicated, we ourselves make it complicated! Life becomes simple when we give up the wrong things and add the right things into our lives.

Presenting to you ways that would help you stop complicating your life.

  • Stop procrastinating. Enough said, there’s no point putting off some work until the day after tomorrow while it was supposed to be done on the day before yesterday. Sooner or later, you have to do that work yourself. Better, do it now.
  • Stop whining and complaining. We whine over and complain about things that aren’t in our control. When that thing cannot be controlled, why do you want to cry about it and complain about it not going the way you wanted it to. Go with the flow.
  • Stop blaming. Take responsibility for your own shizzz. Just like you take credit for your successes, learn to take responsibility for your failure/mistakes. Every mistakes offers a lesson and when you shift the onus of that mistake onto someone else’s shoulder, you refrain yourself from that experience and that lesson.
  • Stop living in the past or the future. Obsessing over the past isn’t going to help because you can’t change what has happened. Doing micro-level of the future isn’t going to help either because there’s no certainty of it and the future is out of control too. What can be controlled is the present. So, live in the moment and make the best out of it.
  • Stop holding onto negativity. Whether it is a relationship or a person, if that thing is holding you back, let it go. You are better off without it. Let go off that relationship that makes you unhappy and let go off that person that doesn’t encourage you and motivate you to do better in life.
  • Stop giving what you don’t want to receive. What goes around comes around. Give out love and kindness and it will be reciprocated. Give out negativity but don’t complain about a trashy life because that’s what you deserve!
  • Stop trying to please. Whatever you do, there will be a chunk of people who won’t be satisfied/happy with you. So, do whatever you want. Do what your heart desires. Don’t bother about the people. You cannot please everyone. You are not a jar of Nutella, it’s not even your job! 😛
  • Stop trying to change people. Think of how difficult it is, to change yourself. Whether it is about losing weight or giving up a habit, it is always difficult to change your own self. When you can’t change yourself, how can you even think about changing someone else? So, accept people as they are and help them grow.

 

By giving up these things, you are surely going to stop complicating your life. These are some strategies worth trying because the end results are amazing. Do let us know, how well they worked for you.

Good luck! 🙂

How to keep yourself motivated after a failure

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“Failure is not about falling down but refusing to get up.”

Undoubtedly, failures are a part of our life. If we don’t fail, we don’t learn. And if we don’t learn, we don’t change. Change is necessary for growth. Failure and success are like the ECG (ElectroCardioGram) of life. Just like a straight line on an ECG marks death of a person, a straight line in the ECG of life marks stagnancy i.e. no growth. Therefore, a failure is as important as a success. We shouldn’t let a success get to our head and a failure get to our heart.

Here’s, presenting to you some reminders to keep you motivated after an encounter with a failure.

  • There is no success without failure. Everything in this world is relative. Just like you need to experience sorrow to know the value of happiness, without failure there is no sweetness in success. You would value success more only if you have failed several times in trying to achieve it. Failure is a sign that you are trying. The only person who never fails is the person who never tries. It is better to try and learn than to not try and live with regret thinking what could have happened.
  • It is OK. It is ok to fail, it means you are trying. Soon, with your persistence and hard work you will definitely achieve success. What is not OK then? I say, to quit. Don’t be afraid to fail. Learn from your failure and move on to the next challenge. It is OK to fail. If you’re not failing, you’re not trying. So, keep trying and never give up! Because winners never quit and quitters never win.
  • Think positively. When you have failed in something and your motivation is down in the dumps, it is natural to think negatively. But do you know? Our thoughts are like the steering wheel that moves our life in the right direction. Positive thinking creates positive results. Train your brain to think positively and good will happen. Negative thinking not only adds to stress but also leads us into imagining situations that never really happen. So, think positive and stay away from over-thinking.
  • Everyday marks a fresh new start. Whatever mistake or failure has happened in our past, should be left in the past. It shouldn’t be dragged into the present or it will take away the peace from it. Obsessing over it won’t change it. Whatever has happened, has happened. Each new day is fresh new opportunity to start afresh. So, utilize these opportunities well and make the best out of them.
  • Life’s greatest lessons are learned during tough times. Failure is a great teacher. When you make mistakes and you recover from them, you treat them as valuable learning experiences. These experiences add to your wisdom and help you grow. So, treat your failures as a teacher because every failure has a lesson to offer.

 

I hope these reminders will help you sail through your tough time. Hey, you are strong! You are going to make through it. Aren’t you?

Good luck! 🙂

Faults in our way of thinking

 

Humankind isn’t perfect and so is the human mind. It makes mistakes. Every single person on the face of this earth, irrespective of his intelligence quotient, sex, religion or age, makes mistakes, ranging from taking wrong decisions to making poor judgments to cooking up stories, assuming things, so on and so forth.

So, in this article, I’m going to share with you such destructive patterns in our thinking and how to recognise them and shun them for your own good. Let’s get started.

  • Judging someone based on their looks. Let’s admit it. We do this innumerable times a day. Classic example of this is- looking at girl wearing short clothes and tagging her as a S**t or someone with no moral character. Or looking at a guy with huge beard and long hair and thinking of him as a creep. Or thinking of a well-dressed and well-groomed man as someone very successful. Don’t we do this? Yes, people all across the globe do this all time. We judge people based on their looks without having any proofs to support our judgment. And this judgment shapes the way we treat them. Always remember, everybody is fighting a battle of their own that you have no idea about. So, stop judging! You think you know them. Guess what? You don’t! It is a wise saying, “Don’t judge a book by its cover.” This holds true for a reason!
  • Negative prophecies. A prophecy is a prediction that motivates a person to take actions that cause the prediction to come true. Negative prophecies have the capability to destroy careers and ruin relationships. For eg.- if you believe that your relationship with your guy/girl is never going to work out, you will gradually stop putting in efforts because of this prophecy at the back of your mind. End result? Your relationship would soon tear apart! Our thoughts drive our life into the desired directions. So, be careful what you think. Stay away from negative prophecies. Always, always bear positive prophecies in your mind because those will motivate you to work towards your goal.
  • Taking credit for successes only. Learn to take responsibility for your failures as much as you take for your successes. The natural human tendency is to take the credit for the positive outcomes and blaming the negative ones onto somebody/something else. When we blame our failures on someone else, we also stop ourselves from growing mentally and emotionally. When we put the onus on somebody else, it becomes his/her responsibility to make amends for the wrong done and not ours! When we own our mistakes and failures, we get to learn from the experience. In the process of correcting the mistakes, we learn what went wrong, what could have been done better and what could have avoided such a situation. All this adds to our experience and wisdom.
  • All of us rebel to prove our freedom. It is a natural human tendency. We feel urged to do something when we are told not to do so. Why do we do this? We think of it as an attack on our personal freedom and take it as a chance to make sure to ourselves that we are free and cannot be told to do or to not do something. Reverse psychology very well tackles this problem.
  • Trying to correct a previous failure by continuing pursuing it. Yes, this is one of the most important one. We continue efforts in a failed relationship or a failed business idea because of the time, energy and money invested in it. It becomes dear to us and giving up on it doesn’t seem right. But is putting in more, the solution? Absolutely not. The failure is evident. The relationship is slipping by or the business is sinking. Giving up and moving on would be the best bet!

 

These destructive thinking patterns can really put us into difficult situations. So, recognise them timely and work on them.

Good luck!

Things successful people do differently

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“Nobody is born to be a champion. And nobody is born to be average either. We make ourselves into one or the other.”

We all admire successful people. Don’t we? We idolize people like Steve Jobs, Mark Zuckerberg, Bill Gates, Lionel Messi, Oprah Winfrey, Virat Kohli, Roger Federer, so on and so forth. Why? Because they are the Champions in their field. They are successful and people aspire to be like them. Interestingly, none of them was born successful; they worked their way into success. They did things that helped them realise their true potential.

So, in this article I’m going to discuss things that they do differently.

  • They work outside their comfort zone. Do you think Virat Kohli became a champion by being within his comfort zone? The answer is a big NO. He used to be chubby, die-hard fan of desserts and had no fixed training and workout regimen. He decided to turn this situation around for himself. He works out daily without a miss and hasn’t touched desserts for four years now. His amazing physique and brilliant performance on field speak volumes. His passion paired with his relentless hard work made him what he is today- the Captain of the Indian Cricket Team!
  • They learn from their mistakes. Mistakes are great teachers. Successful people don’t stop when they make mistakes, they take note of the strategies that didn’t work out and devise new strategies to make things work. They steer clear of the trap of negative thoughts when things don’t work out for them and maintain a positive outlook. They take lessons from their mistakes and move on. We should do this too!
  • They keep good company. It is very rightly said, “We are the average of the five people we spend our time with.” Successful people know this very well. They keep like-minded people around and those who encourage them motivate them and inspire them to do better. Negative people influence us negatively while positive people enhance our growth. So, choose your company wisely.
  • They are consistent. Successful people don’t try to do a week’s work hastily in a single day nor do they lazily complete one day’s work in one week. They are consistent in their approach. They focus on making calculated efforts daily towards their goal. They don’t let occasions or mood swings deter them from working towards their goal.
  • They avoid perfectionism. Successful people focus on delivering tasks of good enough quality. When we set the bar very high, it sometimes becomes discouraging when we ourselves are not able to meet our standards. This discouragement leads us into putting off the tasks until the ‘perfect’ time. This perfect time never comes because we always have something or the other on our plate. Perfectionism leads to procrastination. Hence, successful people don’t fall in this trap of perfectionism. They do justice to whatever they do. They don’t wait for the right time to come.
  • They take logical decisions and ACT on them. Successful people analyse the situation in and out. Based on the facts and the circumstances, they take logical decisions. Logical decision making alone doesn’t suffice until you ACT timely on the decisions taken. Successful people know the difference between knowing what to do and actually doing it. They believe in taking actions.

 

These are the things that successful people do differently and we can too. So what are you waiting for? Incorporate these things in your life and see the magic that happens.

Good luck! 🙂

Skills we need to succeed

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There are different types of skills. There are some skills that you need depending upon your job. For eg.- if you are a software developer, you ought to know coding and various coding languages. This skill, isn’t required by an English Professor. But there are some skills that essential to everyone who wants to succeed. So, in this article, I’m going to discuss about such skills that are totally indispensable if you want to succeed in your life.

  • Information analysis and decision making. These are two different skills but are best used when clubbed together. We live in the era of technology. There is a never-ending pool of information available to us. However, is all this information useful to us? No. And so, the skill of information analysis becomes priceless. This information analysis helps us take logical and effective decisions in our day-to-day life.
  • The skill of prioritizing enables us to separate the important tasks from the not-so-important ones. In the current scenario where everybody has a lot on their plate, this skill helps us maintain our productivity and make us of the opportunities at the right time thereby shunning distractions. Success comes to those who act on the right things at the right time. Isn’t it?
  • Being organized. Disorganization would take up extra time and eat up all the energy when you urgently need a file. It would break your focus and reduce your efficiency. On the other hand, the skill of organization would not only save you time and energy but also help you in being productive and utterly focused while you are working.
  • It not only involves speaking but also involves listening. Good communication skills not only help you communicate your knowledge and emotions easily. It also helps you understand the other person’s point of view in a better way, helping you negotiate the situation effectively.
  • Note-taking. The skill of note-taking is one of the most productive skills that one can have. It helps us remember everything- big or small. It helps us learn and remember specifics. We might think that we will remember stuff but let’s face it, we tend to forget. This skill helps us perform better and gives us an edge over others.
  • This skill is the most sought after skills these days. This helps you find better jobs, get things done, build businesses, spread ideas so on and so forth. This skill helps you find the people you resemble with and helps you keep them close to you. It also helps you get through tough times.

 

These are the skills that successful people swear by. These skills might be difficult to imbibe but once you get the hang of these, they really do wonders. So, give them a try! 😉

Ways to un-complicate your life

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“Life is simple but we insist on making it complicated.” 

-Confucius

 

Yes! Life is very simple but we ourselves create the circumstances that complicate it. So, in this article, I’m going to share some ways to un-complicate your life. Here, we go!

  • Move on from your past. Stop focusing on what has happened and start focusing on what is going to happen. Until you make peace with your past, you cannot move forward towards your future. How can you start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one? The past cannot be changed, edited or erased, it can only be accepted. So, accept your past as it is. Learn from your mistakes and move on!
  • Choose being productive over being busy. Don’t take up a lot of things on your plate. It will only eat up all your time and drain you of energy. Prioritize and do only those things that align with your core goal. Doing a lot of unnecessary things will surely make you busy. But in order to do everything, you won’t be able to do anything correctly. Always remember, being busy doesn’t mean being productive. Devote your time in the important tasks and say no to all else.
  • Give out love and kindness. You cannot exhibit a negative behaviour and complain of having a trashy life. What goes around comes around. Give what you want to receive. So, if you give out love and kindness, it will come back to you. if you want friends, be friendly. Nobody wants to befriend someone rude.
  • Stop trying to please everyone. Trying to please everyone is the perfect recipe for stress, misery and frustration. Be yourself. It’ll be good to know who’s down with that. Be with people who accept you the way you are. You cannot please everyone. So, don’t bother about it. You are not a jar of Nutella, it’s not even your job. 😛
  • Let go of the drama. Distance yourself from the people who create unnecessary drama. Choose friends who admire you, encourage you, support you and motivate you to do better. Life is too short to let anyone suck the happiness out of it.
  • Stay true to your own self. Do what your heart thinks is the right thing to do. There will be many people who won’t be true to you. Do the least and stay true to yourself. Do what your heart desires. Don’t let anyone dictate the terms to you. Don’t do something because someone else wants you to. Do it because you want to. Follow your heart and happiness will find you.

 

So, you see life is actually very simple but we complicate it unnecessarily by taking such decisions. A simple life is a state of mind. It is a way of life. Choose simplicity and live happily!