Frustration takes so much out of us. It sucks energy, distracts us can steal quite a bit of time. frustration can actually be positive when it gives you the power to keep going just a little bit more until you reach your goal. But when the frustration just makes you mad, your mind foggy and the day is starting to slip through your fingers then there are steps you can take.


  • Be here, now.

When you are frustrated then you are often somewhere in the future in your mind. Somewhere you wish you would be. Or you are reliving a stumble or failure from your past.

Come out of those dream castles, calm down by focussing your mind and attention on the present, right here in the moment. Focus on what is around, take deep breaths or do whatever it takes to come back to the normal.


  • Appreciate what you have.

After pulling your attention, appreciate on what positive you still have in your life. Appreciate things that you usually take for granted. Be thankful for the smallest of things or the otherwise un-noticed things. For instance – not having to sleep empty stomach, access to internet, a loving family, a roof over your head etc.

Be appreciative of the people who didn’t leave you in hard times like your family or kids or your partner.

Think about it for a few minutes and you’ll find that you have so much to be grateful for. All the frustration goes away when you realise you already have accomplished a lot.

Remember, someone is happy in less than what you have, someone is praying for the things you take for granted.

Be grateful, it goes a long way!


  • Focus on what can be done right now.

With your attention in the present and your mood grateful and positive, it is now time to think what can be done about the thing that frustrates you.

Find out a small step that you can take easily that would be able to improve the situation and get you going.

It might be learning about what frustrates you, deciding to take a break from it all or calling someone close to talk it out.

It can be anything that improves the situation you are currently in. Recharge yourself and get back into moving towards what you want in your life in a more focussed way.


Lastly, I think it’s what starts to cook in our mind that creates all the frustration. Practising some mindfulness goes a long way! Live in the moment, learn from your mistakes and move and plan your actions. Don’t get dragged down by frustration. The best revenge would be to move on from the things that frustrate you!