Humankind isn’t perfect and so is the human mind. It makes mistakes. Every single person on the face of this earth, irrespective of his intelligence quotient, sex, religion or age, makes mistakes, ranging from taking wrong decisions to making poor judgments to cooking up stories, assuming things, so on and so forth.
So, in this article, I’m going to share with you such destructive patterns in our thinking and how to recognise them and shun them for your own good. Let’s get started.
- Judging someone based on their looks. Let’s admit it. We do this innumerable times a day. Classic example of this is- looking at girl wearing short clothes and tagging her as a S**t or someone with no moral character. Or looking at a guy with huge beard and long hair and thinking of him as a creep. Or thinking of a well-dressed and well-groomed man as someone very successful. Don’t we do this? Yes, people all across the globe do this all time. We judge people based on their looks without having any proofs to support our judgment. And this judgment shapes the way we treat them. Always remember, everybody is fighting a battle of their own that you have no idea about. So, stop judging! You think you know them. Guess what? You don’t! It is a wise saying, “Don’t judge a book by its cover.” This holds true for a reason!
- Negative prophecies. A prophecy is a prediction that motivates a person to take actions that cause the prediction to come true. Negative prophecies have the capability to destroy careers and ruin relationships. For eg.- if you believe that your relationship with your guy/girl is never going to work out, you will gradually stop putting in efforts because of this prophecy at the back of your mind. End result? Your relationship would soon tear apart! Our thoughts drive our life into the desired directions. So, be careful what you think. Stay away from negative prophecies. Always, always bear positive prophecies in your mind because those will motivate you to work towards your goal.
- Taking credit for successes only. Learn to take responsibility for your failures as much as you take for your successes. The natural human tendency is to take the credit for the positive outcomes and blaming the negative ones onto somebody/something else. When we blame our failures on someone else, we also stop ourselves from growing mentally and emotionally. When we put the onus on somebody else, it becomes his/her responsibility to make amends for the wrong done and not ours! When we own our mistakes and failures, we get to learn from the experience. In the process of correcting the mistakes, we learn what went wrong, what could have been done better and what could have avoided such a situation. All this adds to our experience and wisdom.
- All of us rebel to prove our freedom. It is a natural human tendency. We feel urged to do something when we are told not to do so. Why do we do this? We think of it as an attack on our personal freedom and take it as a chance to make sure to ourselves that we are free and cannot be told to do or to not do something. Reverse psychology very well tackles this problem.
- Trying to correct a previous failure by continuing pursuing it. Yes, this is one of the most important one. We continue efforts in a failed relationship or a failed business idea because of the time, energy and money invested in it. It becomes dear to us and giving up on it doesn’t seem right. But is putting in more, the solution? Absolutely not. The failure is evident. The relationship is slipping by or the business is sinking. Giving up and moving on would be the best bet!
These destructive thinking patterns can really put us into difficult situations. So, recognise them timely and work on them.