‘Self-reflection’ – the process of conscious awareness of the self, of knowing where we are and which direction we intend to go. We look back into the past events, successes and failures that have scripted our lives and peep ahead into the future possibilities. This […]
Author: Mohit Sindhu
Do you aspire to be the best version of yourself? I do too. I aspire to be my best self each day, every day. To do so, I’ve learned some principles that help myself to be on the right track.
Presenting to you, some of such principles that have helped me live up to my expectations and will definitely be able to help you too.
- Do what you really want to do. Follow your heart, follow your passion. Life is too short to be running after something that you don’t love. Don’t spoil your chances of being a ‘Master’ in what you love to be a ‘Mediocre’ in what you don’t even like. People might think you are crazy for giving up your heftily paying corporate job to be a singer with an uncertain debut. But don’t give up. Even if it doesn’t pay you good, it would make you happy and give you peace of mind. Always remember, you might not end up being happy even after becoming a billionaire but you will definitely be happy if you stay true to yourself and follow your heart.
- Combine priority and focus. Make a list of your goals, both short term as well as long term. Carefully prioritize your goals based on their importance and relevance. Delegate the less important ones to someone else, if required. This would leave you with the most important ones only. Focus is the key component of excellence. So, focus on these goals one-by-one. Work on them with full dedication and concentration, giving in your best. When you give in your best, the outcome of it comes out to be the best. And in this process, you eventually learn and grow, becoming your best self.
- Be positive. All right, this is a bit clichéd but this is absolutely necessary. If you focus on being all-negative about yourself and your surroundings, you are not going to grown. You would be dreaded by the fact of exploring new opportunities because of the slim chances of failure. You would be sceptical about any growth opportunity because you would be concentrated on te ‘WHAT-IFs’ more than the ‘HOW-TOs’. However, if you focus on being positive, you would love exploring your horizons. Even if you fail, you would take it as a learning experience and love the wisdom that it adds to you. It will always be a win-win for you, no matter what.
- Focus on the actionable. There are two things that you cannot change nor do anything about – One, the past and two, the people. This implies, you should not dwell on your past or get affected by the opinions of the people around you. Concentrate on making your present the best and don’t waste your precious time and energy over people who don’t mean anything to you. You cannot change your past, it has already happened and you cannot change the people also. Focusing on these two things would be plain stupid. So, focus on making the best out of today and don’t change yourself to please others around you.
Spend time with the best. It is rightly said, “We are the average of the five people that we spend our time with.” The company we keep plays a very crucial role in shaping you. If you live with people who perform poorly, you tend to get dragged down along with them. However, if you live with great performers and achievers, you would be inspired to be your best self. You get to learn so much in the company of good people that helps you grow and develop at a faster pace. So, choose your company wisely.
Oftentimes, we wish we could go back in time and give our 18-year-old self some life-changing advices. Don’t we? I know I do. I would have done so much better had I been given guidance and advices relating to career, relationship, skill development, time management […]
All of us on the face of this planet want to be able to achieve whatever goals we have set for ourselves. But many times, we can’t seem to achieve it. There are many reasons as to why we fail at it. But this doesn’t stop people like Steve Jobs, Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg and other infamous people from achieving their goals.
In this article, I have covered a tried and tested step-by-step guide to achieving your goals. Without any further ado, let’s check it out.
- Set an achievable goal for yourself. You can have a huge goal for yourself but that should be feasible and realistic. Your goal should be in harmony with your passions and interests so that you don’t get bored of working for it. You should also have a motivation driver related to that goal otherwise you will just keep putting it off.
- Carefully strategize and plan your course of action. Strategizing and planning will comprise of these sub-steps-
- Remind yourself about your core goal every now and then so that you don’t get distracted. Write about your goal clearly and boldly on a sheet of paper and paste it in/around your working space.
- Get involved with like-minded people. People with similar goals will not only guide you through your journey but will also act as a support entity. Such a group will help you maintain accountability and consistency in your actions.
- Create a daily work plan. Every morning write down the tasks that would help you bring closer to your goals. Try to create 1-3 actionable tasks for each day and accomplish them before you go to sleep. Make them a priority and make them a part of your schedule. Seek help from the people who have already achieved similar goals or from your loved ones.
- Set a deadline. Until you set a deadline to a goal, it will not seem urgent to you. It won’t be of any importance to you and you won’t make it a priority. So, set achievable deadlines to your tasks as well as to your goal.
- Take actions. This is the most important. Most of us stop after strategizing and planning. We fail to find time and hence even after such an in-depth planning, we don’t take actions in the desired direction and all the strategizing and planning goes in vain. Whatever you planned above, just DO IT!
- Regularly review your progress. Reviewing the process would help you to make necessary adjustments to it. Some things might not have come to your mind while you were planning but when you get started, you experience some real-time problems. Reviewing helps fix such unpredictable problems. Also, the positive results observed during the review work as a motivation, gives us a boost of confidence and help us in moving forward.
This guide will surely help you in achieving your goals, I promise.
Wishing you the best of luck! 🙂
Procrastination is everywhere. In fact I have a confession to make, I am a PRO in procrastination. All of us are aware of how procrastination is disguised as happiness but is actually stealing us of our happiness and peace of mind. It’s high time that we find the causes and cures of it.
Here’s presenting to you an article on what are the top 3 causes and proven cures to procrastination. Have a look.
- No motivation. When motivation is down in the dumps, we don’t feel like doing anything and every small task appears to be a daunting one. We make excuses to putting it off until next time. But does this really help? No. By doing this, we are only postponing the work and not getting done with it. The deadline and stress of the pending task looms over our head and robs us of happiness. When you are lacking motivation, you are probably looking at the task by calculating how much time and efforts it would require. What you should be rather doing is, figuring out the rewards that you would get in return once the task is completed. For example- you might want to complete a task early because you will be getting a bonus on its completion or you can yourself assign a reward for yourself after you are done with a task.
- Uncertainty of outcome. Many times, we fear doing a task because we don’t know what the outcome would be and this uncertainty intimidates us. Other times, we fear failure and imagine people looking down at us. When this happens, ask yourself this question – “how many times has my imagination really come alive?” and you will figure out that most of time what you dreaded didn’t really happen and you had unnecessarily cooked up wild thoughts in your mind. You will realise that you had done a lot of over-thinking on the subject and it wasn’t absolutely required. Instead of getting trapped in the vicious cycle of over-thinking and procrastination, just make small efforts towards the task at hand without thinking about the outcome. Give in your best without fear of failure and everything will fall into place.
Trying to do things ‘perfectly’. Whenever we have something important to accomplish, it is natural to urge a hint of perfectionism in that task. In wanting to accomplish things perfectly, we wait for the ‘perfect’ time, ‘perfect’ resources, ‘perfect’ company and everything perfect. In this process, we forget that stars will never align ‘perfectly’ and that the ‘perfect’ time might never come. There will always be something or the other on our plate and all this would make us put that important task off until eternity. In such a situation, don’t aim for perfection. Rather aim to accomplish small tasks in the right direction. The aim is never perfection but the task that is important to us. Perfectionism is just an excuse to put things off. If something is really important to you, work on it, no matter what. Don’t wait for the stars to align or the universe to make things easy for you. Just work on it with whatever resources you have and however much time you have.
Enough said. Habits, whether good or bad, play a highly important role in our life. Some habits have the potential to alter the efficiency of our minds. These habits when integrated in our routine can really help a mediocre become a highly efficient person. Mentioned […]