“Time is what we want the most but use the worst.” I am in total agreement with the quote mentioned above. We are always short of time. How many of us cannot stop wishing there were more hours in a day? Do you ever wonder […]
Month: October 2017
Who doesn’t want to be successful? There isn’t a single person on the face of this earth who doesn’t aspire to be successful in whatever s/he does. But there are some habits that hold us back, that stop us from being successful. They are so […]
“Success is the ability to go from one failure to another with no loss of enthusiasm.”
Everyone wants success. We have numerous beliefs about what works for us, about the right way to achieve. We are aware of the habits that promote success as well as some strategies that work. Some actually help us get there while some are pure myths that are holding us back. So, in this article, I’m going to bust some myths to clear the air about success.
#Myth 1 – You only need to work really HARD to be successful.
Yes, you need to work really hard to be successful. No doubt. But success doesn’t come with hard work ONLY. It comes with constructive habits that lead to a routine. A routine in which you work hard, putting your heart and soul. To build that routine, you need to be consistent with your actions. Repeat the actions day in and day out until they become and effortless habit. For actions to become habit or part of your routine, you need to be CONSISTENT. So, before you start working hard, you have to develop CONSISTENCY! Therefore, the key to be successful is – CONSISTENT HARD WORK (and not just hard work).
#Myth 2 – Focusing on the HOWs and working on them is sufficient to be successful.
This is another that most of us fall prey to. Focusing on the HOWs is undoubtedly an essential part of success. But what keep you driven is the WHY! “Why do you want to do this?”, “Why is this work important to you?”, “Why is this deadline important to you?” etc. the WHYs keep us motivated and help us focus on the HOWs. So, the HOW alone is not sufficient, we definitely need WHYs to sail through the journey of success.
#Myth 3 – You should sacrifice everything to be successful.
This is the most popular myth that I guess each one of us has heard of. Who hasn’t heard stories of Thomas Edison or Bill Gates working at superhuman level, without sleeping, eating or taking breaks! 😛 This, however, is impossible and more discouraging than encouraging. Such references can be used for admiration but can’t or rather shouldn’t be used as ideals in life. Because sooner or later, if it doesn’t suit you, you will quit. Rather than making time for work by doing sacrifice of sleeping/eating/relaxing time, one should cut down on the time spent in less-productive tasks like social media time, making better use of travelling time etc.
#Myth 4 – You should transform yourself completely in the blink of an eye to be successful.
What can be more unrealistic than this? Transformation doesn’t come overnight, it is a process that takes time and efforts to become a better version of yourself. You cannot just sleep one night and wake up into a healthier, more focused, happier and more productive person the next day. Transformation needs habits. Some habits have to be given and some have to be incorporated. Building a habit takes time and consistent efforts! So, rather than transforming yourself, think about building yourself. Building better habits, building a better YOU. Transformation would automatically follow!
These were some myths I have come across in my life, myths that are absolutely pointless. Hope they help you. Do share any success related myth you might have come across some time in your life! 😉
Its’ that day of week when things aren’t going your way. Things don’t seem to be falling into place and whatever you do only seems to worsen it up. All you have around is – crisis and you feel like giving up and going home. […]
What do I mean by an effective mindset?
Well, an effective mindset is the one that draws the best out of everything. That knows how to make the best out of the limited resources like time and energy.
So, here is how an effective mindset behaves.
- Enjoys the present. You cannot be happy if you keep dwelling in your past or planning your future. This way you are not only welcoming unnecessary stress but also spoiling your present. Happiness comes when you enjoy the present irrespective of the setbacks of the past or the plans of the future. So, make the best out of the present.
- Doesn’t get scared of challenges, accepts them. Michael Jordan once said, “Challenges don’t have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don’t turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it or work around it.” An effective mindset is aware of the fact that – strength doesn’t come from what you can do, it comes from overcoming the things you once thought you couldn’t. Always remember – No pressure; No diamond!
- Self-discipline. There is nothing that self-discipline cannot accomplish. Self-discipline brings along the art of mastering your moods, watching your words, restraining reactions, sticking to a schedule, managing resources wisely and maintaining good health. This is the very reason why schools try to inculcate self-discipline in us. An effective mind doesn’t need anybody else to discipline it, it disciplines itself.
- Remains optimistic. Whether it is a failure or a minor setback, am effective mind doesn’t get scared. It remains optimistic throughout and sails through the difficult times like it’s no big deal. It is quite aware that failures are a part and parcel of life and you cannot escape them. It’s better to learn from your mistakes and move on.
- Always ready to help others. An effective mind knows that someone’s most useful asset is not a head full of knowledge, but a heart full of love, an ear ready to listen and a hand willing to help others. When we reach out to others, seeking the best in them, we somehow bring out the best in ourselves.
These habits would definitely help you in becoming a better person. There is nothing to lose in it. Effectiveness of mind comes with all round development of it and not just gaining knowledge. Aspire to tick the points above and you will see the difference!
“Perfectionism is the mother of procrastination.” One of the many destructive habits that lead us into procrastination is – Perfectionism. Trying to be perfect in whatever we do will hold us back from trying until the ‘perfect’ time arrives. It adds to the stress […]
“Do what you feel in your heart to be right, for you’ll be criticized anyway. You’ll be damned if you do and damned if you don’t.”
Many of us try to avoid situations where we can be rejected because obviously, rejections hurt. It might be a rejection in a relationship or a job or anything else. But is avoiding the solution? Running away from things we fear is never the solution. Such situations and fears need to be worked upon.
So, here are some habits and tips that would help to lessen the sting of rejection.
- Don’t push away the feelings. Trying to force optimism and suppressing the actual feelings would be of no help. Take time to process the thoughts and feelings that you experience during a rejection. Accepting those feelings will help in getting over the rejection faster and would be less painful in the long run.Trying to push them away at the moment, would make them come back at unexpected times leading to undue mood swings.
- Be grateful for what you have in life. Thinking about the people, the passions or hobbies, the sometimes taken for granted things like a roof over your head and that you don’t have to go hungry would definitely bring a smile on your face. Tapping into the feelings of gratitude helps to give a perspective in life. The feeling of a complete failure gets overshadowed when you realise what all you still have in life.
- Don’t blame yourself. It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking there is something wrong with you if you get rejected in something. That’s just how life is. So see if you can learn something from the situation but don’t put the blame of everything that happens on yourself.
- Learn from your rejections. be honest with yourself to increase the chances of success and reduce the risk of rejection in the future. Maybe there’s something you can improve about your interview skills when you’re at a job interview? Or about your conversation skills when you’re on a date? This will help you improve.
- Remember : this time shall pass. A rejection might force you to think negatively. You might start thinking that this is permanent and that you will always get rejected. Always remember, nothing is permanent and the difficult time shall pass too. You just have to hold on.
- Keep going. Don’t let rejections stagnate you. Keep making plans to work on other things or to improve in some other areas. Only the go-getters want what they get. Stagnation leads nowhere, it only means decay.
These tips definitely would prove to be helpful. So, give up the negativity and start working, start improving and keep going. You are meant for better and something better awaits you, promise!
Ending this article with this song running in the back of my mind – “Don’t you worry child, see heaven’s got a plan for you.” – keeps me upbeat. Give a try 😉